Let’s get one thing straight, fat, curvy, plus-size, big-bodied, thick, juicy, whatever you call it, our bodies are not any less sexual. They’re not broken. They’re not waiting to be “fixed” before we get to feel pleasure. They are deserving, worthy, soft, sensual, and powerful exactly as they are.
But when you grow up in a world that teaches you to shrink, to hide your belly, silence your needs, and only feel sexy after you lose weight, it messes with your mind. Especially when it comes to sex. So let’s unlearn it, together.
Let’s talk about what it actually means to explore your pleasure in a plus-size body and yes, let’s talk toys too. Because pleasure is political. And we deserve better.
Let Go of the Shame
Feeling disconnected from your body is not a personal flaw. It’s a trauma response to years of being told you’re “too much.” Too big. Too loud. Too soft. Too visible. So if you’ve ever felt nervous to touch yourself, hesitant to buy a toy, or unsure if pleasure is for you , start here:
You are not a burden. You are a body that deserves to be loved, especially by you.
Reconnect, Slowly and Gently
Before diving into the vibe aisle, start with presence. Breathe. Touch your skin like it’s a poem. Don’t rush. This isn’t a race to orgasm. It’s a journey back to yourself. And when you’re ready? Your body will love your right back.
To get you started, here’s a soft, beginner-friendly pleasure kit built for plus-size babes, by people who get it:
Ladylike: For slow, intentional self-love
Ladylike isn’t here to shock you into an orgasm. She’s here to seduce you back into your own body. Her gentle curves, flexible neck, and soft pulses are ideal for folks who need a toy that listens, not overwhelms.
Especially great for those navigating overstimulation, body sensitivity, or simply learning to slow down. Ladylike will help you feel the pleasure that you’ve been waiting for.
Flow: For those “I want it all” days
Flow is the multitasking goddess. She’s got dual motors, flexible arms, and vibes that can adapt to your anatomy, not the industry’s idea of it. Great for deeper bodies, hidden sweet spots, and exploring what actually feels good in your unique shape.
With its unique shape, curved tip, and patterns, it is capable of delivering targeted stimulation on the body as well as sweet spots externally. So, these features make it perfect for self-love journey back to yourself.
Tease: For the curious cuties
Tiny, flirty, and hella fun, Tease is like the best kind of foreplay, unexpected, exciting, but never intimidating. Her bunny ears make her perfect for clitoral exploration, nipple teasing, or even edging. After all, women love bunnies so come on, what are you even waiting for?
Beginner tip: Use her over your panties the first time. Let your body catch up to your curiosity.
Monrose: For sensual surrender
Monrose is the luxe slow burn. She’s ideal for body mapping, self-massage, and learning to treat your entire body as an erogenous zone. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from touch, Monrose is your bridge back.
Plus, her unique size makes her easier to hold and move around any body type. This is the toy that is going to show you the power of suction and you can even try it hands-free!
Slide & Glide Lube: Friction is not your friend
Bodies are beautiful, but skin is skin. And more folds, more thighs, and more pressure points mean lube is your BFF, not a backup plan. Slide & Glide is water-based, silky, and safe with all toys.
Add it generously. Add it often. Add it like you mean it. This is your buddy that is going to take you to the land of big O’s and happiness.
Make Room for Messy, Joyful Pleasure
You don’t need a flat stomach to ride a vibe. You don’t need thigh gaps for access. You don’t need to be “in shape” to be in tune. You just need a little softness, some curiosity, and permission to feel everything.
You see, here’s the truth: Plus-size bodies are sexy. Not “for a big girl.” Not “in the right outfit.” Not “after the diet.” Right now. Right here. As you are. So explore. Play. Moan louder. Laugh harder. Let your belly jiggle. Let your thighs squeeze the toy so tight it almost disappears. Let go.
You were never the problem. The world just forgot to design pleasure for you. But now? Now you design it for yourself.
