If you’ve ever been curious about trying a sex toy but weren’t sure where to start, you’re not alone. For many people, the idea sounds exciting… but also a little intimidating. There’s so much choice out there, and if you’ve never used one before, you might not know what’s right for you, how to use it, or even how to bring it into your routine.
The truth is, exploring with sex toys doesn’t have to be overwhelming or awkward. In fact, it can be one of the most fun and empowering ways to learn about your own body and desires. Whether you’re flying solo or inviting a partner along for the ride, here’s how to take your first steps with confidence.
1. Ditch the pressure, start with curiosity
Your first sex toy experience doesn’t have to be a wild, boundary-pushing adventure. Think of it more like trying a new recipe: you start with something simple, see how it feels, and go from there.
Instead of telling yourself, “I need to try everything right now,” approach it with the mindset of, “Let’s see what I enjoy.” This takes the pressure off and keeps things light, playful, and stress-free.
2. Pick toys that are beginner-friendly
Not all sex toys are designed with beginners in mind. Some can be big, complex, or have advanced features you might not need right away. When you’re starting out, choose toys that are easy to use, versatile, and non-intimidating.
Here are a few gentle but exciting starting points:
Ladylike – A flexible, powerful vibe perfect for stimulation. It’s discreet, travel-friendly, and great for finding out what kinds of sensations make you tick.
Monrose – Elegant and smooth, this suction-based toy with multiple intensity settings so you can play around and figure out what works for you. It can also help you experiment with oral.
Flow – Designed for both internal and external exploration, this smooth, body-safe vibrator is perfect for those who want variety without complication. It’ll help you journey back to you.
All three are body-safe, shower-safe, easy to clean, and simple to control, so you can focus on pleasure instead of fumbling with buttons.
3. Make lube your best friend
Lube isn’t just for people with dryness concerns, it’s for anyone who wants to make things feel better. Friction can distract you from pleasure, while lube helps create a smooth, gliding sensation that enhances every movement.
For beginners, a good water-based option like our Slide & Glide Lube is ideal because it works with all kinds of toys and cleans up easily. Just a little can transform your entire experience.
4. Set the scene
Pleasure isn’t only about physical touch; it’s also about mood. Dim the lights, put on a playlist you love, light a candle, or just get cosy in bed with your favourite blanket.
Creating a safe, inviting space helps you relax and when you’re relaxed, you’re more open to exploring new sensations.
5. Explore solo before involving a partner
While toys can be amazing in partnered sex, there’s something incredibly valuable about trying them on your own first. Solo play lets you explore without feeling self-conscious and gives you the space to learn what you like.
That way, if you decide to introduce toys into partner play, you’ll already have a sense of what turns you on.
6. Don’t forget aftercare
After play, it’s important to clean both your toys and your body properly. Not only does this keep things hygienic, but it also turns post-play into a little self-care ritual.
For your toys, use mild soap or a toy cleaner. For yourself, choose something gentle and pH-balanced like Yonibath or Woodbath Intimate Washes. It keeps you fresh and comfortable without disrupting your body’s natural balance.
7. Go at your own pace
Pleasure is deeply personal. What feels amazing for one person might feel just okay for another and that’s completely normal. You might discover a favourite toy right away, or you might need to experiment a bit before finding your match.
Remember: there’s no finish line. The goal is to enjoy the journey, learn about yourself, and maybe surprise yourself along the way.
Sex toys aren’t about replacing touch, connection, or intimacy. They’re tools, like a favourite book or a go-to recipe, that help you express yourself and experience joy in new ways. If you’ve been on the fence, start small, use body-safe products, and keep your focus on curiosity over performance.
The right toy, like Ladylike, Monrose, or Flow, paired with essentials like Slide & Glide Lube and Intimate Washes, can turn your first steps into a memorable, empowering experience. Your pleasure is yours to explore, so take your time, follow your instincts, and enjoy discovering what makes you feel good.
